Monday, January 27, 2014

Body Language

Body Language Can Let You Know
How Others Feel About You
Knowing how to read body language is an essential skill.  Experts say that communication is fifteen percent verbal and ninety percent nonverbal.  The other five percent is mumbling.

For example, if you're talking to someone and he yawns, checks the time on his cellphone, and begins reading the newspaper, did you know he might not be interested in what you had to say?

Or suppose you saw a bunch of dead bodies arranged to spell NO TRESSPASSING.  That's an unusual form of body language, but it would behoove you to read it.  It would also behoove you not to mention the misspelling of "trespassing."

Hands are an important part of body language.  If a person turns his hands outward with palms open, we call that "being open."  Raising your hands over your head as if reaching for the sky is called, "I give up."  If a person sticks his hands in your mouth, it may mean you're at the dentist.  If he puts his hands around your throat and squeezes, he may be trying to kill you.  These are useful things to know.

Eye contact is another form of body language which is very complex.  It's so complex, I don't know anything about it.  I recommend avoiding eye contact with anybody.  The surface of the eye is very sensitive and apt to injury if it touches something or someone.  Instead of making eye contact with someone, try just looking at them.  Look at their eyes, if you want.  Just a suggestion.

You can also use your body to demonstrate affection.  I knew some people with a dachshund who did this all the time.  Whenever I was there, he would use body language on my leg to show affection.  He was so affectionate, I had to use body language of my own to make him stop.